Healing from Family Dysfunction | Online & in Boulder, CO
Heal your past, navigate your relationships, connect with your True Self, and journey toward deeper connection.
You may have arrived here if you…
Had a parent that was too preoccupied or emotionally unavailable to meet your emotional needs. Your parent(s) were not able to give you the affection and attentiveness you needed as a child.
You grew up with a narcissistic caregiver and/or experienced abuse as a child.
You experience a gut feeling of emptiness and feeling alone in the world. You carry within you this deep sense that you don’t belong.
You feel a sense of shame for needing comfort or having any needs at all. You often feel guilty for being unhappy.
You’ve had to become what your family wanted you to be in order to earn approval or affection, and in the process, lost touch with your True Self.
You struggle to trust your instincts and often discount your feelings.
You take on too much responsibility and blame yourself for issues that arise within your family.
However you arrived here, I am so glad you are here. Read on to see if my family dysfunction services may help you on this journey.
You may have lost touch with your True Self in an effort to feel loved and valued.
You may believe that your true self isn’t enough to receive the affection you crave, so you had to learn that the only way to be valued and noticed was to become someone else. You may feel the need to hide behind a mask, fearful that if anyone knew the true you, they would walk away.
No matter how much you play the role, you still feel as if you don’t belong. Perhaps you walk around with a deep yearning for connection, yet feel emotionally lonely and disconnected from others and yourself.
You may feel shame for having any needs at all. As a child, you learned to be strong and self-sufficient. You knew that your parents wouldn’t meet your needs and so it was up to you to take care of yourself and, at times, your parents. At times, you may feel guilty for feeling unhappy. You isolate your emotions from others out of fear of being seen as a burden.
Perhaps you find yourself longing for healthy relationships, but you find that the dysfunction of your past seems to creep into your adult relationships. It is hard to know what a healthy relationship would even look like.
Find out how you can start feeling whole again.
The truth is, the dysfunction you experienced, transformed, can offer you the gifts for authentic, deep connection.
Chances are, the family dysfunction that you experienced taught you to internalize the issues around you by taking on the responsibility to heal the brokenness you witnessed. On the one hand, this can often result in anxiety when you feel guilty for displeasing someone, resort to blaming yourself for the issues around you, or become overly self-sacrificing. As an internalizer, you may find yourself suffering in silence—on the inside, you are falling apart, yet everyone else sees you as someone who is strong and has it all together.
The good news is that as an internalizer, you have some of the most beautiful gifts to offer a relationship.
These gifts emerge when you are able to bring your sense of responsibility into balance and reconnect with the true self that had been suppressed. Your capacity for self-reflection and your intentionality in learning from your mistakes makes you someone who can approach relationships with intentionality. You may find that you are extremely in tune with the emotional states of others. As a friend, parent, or partner, this makes you someone who has the capacity to offer another person the love, affection, and attentiveness that you longed for as a child.
The wounds that your family inflicted on you do not have to have the final word. By connecting with your true self and restoring a sense of balance to how you view your role in relationships, you will find yourself begin to experience a deep sense of belonging in your life.
You don’t have to navigate this healing road alone.
Learn about what it means to grow up in a dysfunctional family and how this formed you as an adult. In this group, you will develop new skills for navigating dysfunction in relationships and building deeper, more connected relationships in your life today.
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